“She is too big to be working there. She is too fat to be eating that. She shouldn’t have bought those jeans her legs look like twigs.” I cannot believe we even have to be saying this but enough already.
If you’re qualified for the job and work hard at it then it should be yours. That burger she’s eating might be the first thing she’s had all day and the only thing she could afford, also, if someone wants to eat a burger let them eat the fucking burger, even if it's their tenth one of the day. Not your business. Bigger people have to eat to survive too you dumb fucks. The girl in those jeans may have stared in the mirror for an hour before she left the house, scared of what others might say.
The way we look does not determined anything else about us. Our size does not tell you about how we live our lives and it certainly does not and should not stop us from doing anything.
I’m glad I grew up during the time I did, but, it was also filled with a lot of negative body image. Bridget Jones taught us that her tiny frame was ‘too fat’. Friends showed us that Monica during her heavier days was unacceptable and gross. She was bullied, belittled and had comments made every time she ate something. They made us think she wasn’t worthy of love, certainly not at that size anyway. Chandler was never interested in her until she lost weight. He didn’t even give her the time of day before. Tyra Banks telling anyone over a size six were plus size. Da fuck??
These shows taught us that if we weren’t stick thin we were fat. End of, no exceptions. And, of course it stuck with us. That along with all the fad diets being shoved down our mother’s throats in the weekly newspapers, we didn’t stand a chance.
The internet is full of videos and posts telling you to love your body how it is now. Sure, I agree we should, but there are also millions of other posts commenting on people’s size and letting them know exactly what they think. Oh thanks hun, I literally live for your opinion on my body and my life. I could not be here without you.
We are told that if we are overweight we do not deserve all the amazing things that slim people have. We don’t deserve love, respect or even that dream job you just applied for. Why should you get it if you’re overweight? You’re clearly lazy and gross and wouldn’t possibly put in the amount of effort required.
Society has taught us that slim is good and fat is bad. Don’t get it confused though, slim is good but not too slim, society has also made that very clear.
I watch as a man will walk in front of me and I have to stop but he will willingly stop for a slim woman and let her pass first. I watch as I hear a no from a potential employer for a job I was qualified for due to my size. I dated a guy when I was bigger and again when I had lost a bunch of weight, and one night to my smaller self he said ‘I like you better like this’, so I ate him.
I have been overweight most of my life, and bigger people don’t get the same respect as others do. We are not worthy and the great things in life should be kept for the slim folk.
I was watching a TV show the other night and there was a scene where an overweight man was a model and had his photo up on his wall and the girls ridiculed it and poked fun. Yet, if he had been posing there with a six pack it would have been another story. Yes, we all have different types and are attracted to different shapes and sizes but the lack of respect is vile.
As ridiculous as I know it is, my brain has been trained to think I need to lose weight in order to meet the man of my dreams. When in reality I haven’t met him yet because men are stupid and dumb and don’t deserve my fire personality and sassy attitude. There I said it!
TV shows, magazines and the media are constantly telling us what we should think. How about we say fuck you huns and do whatever the hell we want. No matter your size, shape whatever, wear those shorts, go to that party, apply for that job, ask that guy out and if anyone has an issue with that eat them.
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